As a friend tells me her current bigger-kid issue, I start role-playing in my head. The problem: Older child caught looking at something inappropriate on their phone. My friend asks me what I would do. After a long moment of "uhhhhhhhhhhhhhh," I get it together and put myself in her shoes.
My oldest child made me a cup of tea and used whole milk as creamer. Dairy does not always agree with me and it seems today, my lactose intolerance will rear its ugly head. But consuming things you don't like for the greater good is not that much of a sacrifice.
Preteen, when you tell me to get out of YOUR room, I stand in confusion trying to understand the words that are coming out of your mouth. Now, I'm not saying things can't be ours and I'm not saying you can't have some privacy. But let's practice gratefulness, respectfulness and tread carefully when using sassy tones.