Victim mentality is addictive, mood-altering approach to life's challenges

Posted: Jun. 4, 2011 7:28 pm Updated: Oct. 15, 2014 9:35 am

To The Herald-Whig:

Thank you to Mr. O'Neal for the insight into the "real" world in his recent letter to the editor.

I'm always intrigued by victim mentality. No matter what, regardless of our choices, our efforts, or our commitment, we can always find someone to blame for our situation. It is much easier to sit back and whine -- accuse greedy management, evil corporate empires, banks and the oil companies for the situations that we create for ourselves. That way we can avoid taking any responsibility, and just like the small child, we can tearfully exclaim, "It's not my fault."

Whining won't conquer a single rung on the ladder, and if crying about our lot in life is all we choose to do, it will never change. Joseph P. Kennedy did not say "When the going gets tough, the tough start whining."

Self-pity has been known to be mood-altering, and can be severely addictive because no one who has it will admit to it. Why not, when blaming everyone else allows us a ready excuse for never overcoming mediocrity? Also, to clarify, in this, the real world, the wealthiest 5 percent pay 54 percent of the income taxes in this country and the top half pay 94 percent. So to claim that they pay little or no taxes is pure fiction.

Lastly, the tea party is indeed interested in changing the status quo. Anyone who was awake last November is aware of the impact of that movement, whether or not you agree with their position.

So, are we going to "Rise and Shine" or will we be content to "Rise and Whine?"


Daniel P. Musholt



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